Some blessing like “Congratulations”, “cheers”, “ God bless “, “ Have a wonderful life ahead” are always welcome but some phrases can sometimes go wrong.
Being Indian it is in our blood to talk a lot about the wedding so as soon as one of our friends or family member gets engaged. We just hop over with all the silly questions. We just get so excited about all the programs, the functions, preparations and forget about everything else.
We just love the happily ever after. But at times this might not go so well with the person, as they might not be prepared for your next question.
1. “When are you going to have kids?”
This is certainly not a good start as the couple might have not yet thought it through. This might even scare them from the thought of marriage which is certainly not easy to handle.
Mark our words and just control your excitement a little. Think like this that they haven’t planned about the wedding yet so there is just no reason of thinking about starting a family.
2. How are they paying for the wedding?
This is again a pretty touchy subject, as they might just not be sure how they are going to handle all this. Let them plan and have their own way out and they will ask if in case they need help. You might not have any idea how the families have planned it and whether they are still arguing about the topic. Money is a pretty sensitive matter and they need to deal it their own way. You should always allow them this much space.
3. “Are you inviting cousin Pooja?”
The basic conversation that families go through is short listing the guest list. As much they want to invite everyone to their wedding, there is always the money factor and that determines the number of guest they can easily fit in to the wedding. And you constantly asking them whether or not they are inviting “pooja”, might worry them and they cannot get it of their mind.
So, it is far better not to ask about the budget or the guest list. Let them sort it out and if they ask you for suggestion, only then go ahead.
4. “That’s not the ring I expected you to get.”
Another specialty of Indians is that they love the jewelry but the young generation like it to keep it simple and elegant. The days of long old traditional necklaces are long gone, so don’t pressurize anyone to settle according to your terms.
You mentioning something about the appearance of the ring might just upset the bride or groom and this certainly impacts the festive mood of the wedding. Let them have their way out and you just enjoy the things with them.
5. “Are you planning to lose weight for the wedding?”
Please just save yourself from the wrath of angry bride. Why upset her with your silly questions? She knows what to do and what not. It is her business alone and let all the bride and her family cherish the special moments as they want. There is no need to spread negativity about the weight, so keep it zipped, even though this striked your head.
Are you getting married in a few days or months to come?? Worried about being asked same questions from your friends or relatives?
The best way to remind them that they should not poke their nose in others business is via simply sharing with them this hilarious experience blog. So don’t wait, tag along your cousins and relatives, who are most likely to do the same thing.